When you’re this drained, normal routines feel harder to complete. Getting things done, especially around the whare, can be exhausting. You may find yourself depending on others around you, and it’s uncomfortable. This is where it helps to let people close to you know how you're going.
To ease the stress, you can:
Share how you feel with someone close – getting it out in the open can lighten your mental load.
Talk about what you need with family and friends, and where you could use some help.
Note the times of the day that you’re more likely to be fatigued. Plan activities around those times.
Seek help with work, money or household tasks.
Reach out to other friends, extended whānau and health professionals for support.
You may not feel up to some activities that you’ve done together in the past, but you can create new ways to keep your connection strong. These opportunities can help bring you closer together and will help you on this cancer journey.
Fatigue and sex
Fatigue can also affect your sex life, as you may not have enough energy for sex. Many tāne are surprised by how tired they feel and by the impact it has on their lives. Some tāne feel that fatigue is one of the hardest parts of having prostate cancer. It can be very frustrating, especially if you are used to being active.
Energy for sex can be in short supply, whether you’ve had treatment or not. To help with this include your partner in your plan, and talk together about what times of the day could work best. Having ongoing and open kōrero can help you both feel on the same page.
For more support, you can get advice from a sexual health counsellor who will understand your concerns. They can help you both move towards a healthy and satisfying sex life.