Learn more about: Leaking urine (or pee) when aroused

During surgery, the valves that keep urine in the bladder do not work well for a while. The valves heal over time. In the meantime, it is difficult to control the flow of urine (or pee) as well.

It is helpful to go to a continence nurse or physiotherapist to learn how the muscles of the pelvic floor can assist the bladder valves to keep the urine in the bladder while you’re relaxed during sex.

When will it stop?

Leaking urine during sex is more common in the early months after surgery and often gets better as you recover.

For most men, it stops after a few months, but a few men continue to have these symptoms.

But remember, urine is a normal body fluid, just like semen or spit. It is almost sterile when it comes out. It won’t hurt you or your partner, even if it leaks during penetration.

What can you do?

The short answer is — plenty!

Read our top tips below:

  • Urinate before sex. Wait a few seconds after peeing and use your fingertips to push the urine gently from behind the scrotum and down the urethra. You can then shake the last few drops out in the normal way.

  • Put a soft towel under you when having sex.

  • Have some warm water and towel next to you.

  • Disguise urine by using a lubricant to moisturize the penis.

  • Take it to the shower. Sex in the shower or bath can help you relax and will wash away any urine that comes out.

  • If urine leaks really bother you or your partner, you can try to wear a condom to catch any urine that comes out during sex.

  • Consider a constriction ring (ED ring or cock ring). Some men use a vacuum erection device and constriction ring around the base of their penis when it’s hard.

How does the constriction ring work? The ring presses down on the urethra, stopping urine from passing through. Talk to your doctor or care team to check if using a ring will be suitable for you. You may need to experiment until you find the right tightness so that it prevents urine leaking but is still comfortable for you. Don’t keep the ring on for more than 30 minutes at a time. Keeping it on for longer periods may damage the tissues in your penis.

As always, if you’ve got questions about urine leakage and ways to improve, talk to your doctor or care team for assistance.

Urine collects in the urethra after peeing

Use the fingertips to push down any collected urine by firmly stroking forward behind the scrotum.

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